How to Prevent Overshadowing From Destroying a Relationship

Ellen J. Barrier

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To prevent overshadowing from destroying a relationship, the high profile person must convince his or her partner that their role in the relationship is important. This is done by inspiring and motivating that individual frequently; doing things together, and working together on an equal level.  If the high profile partner takes the lead role in their relationship, it pushes the other person out of the relationship, leaving them with nothing to contribute. 

Because that individual no longer has a role in the relationship, there is no interest or reason for him or her to feel important to their high profile partner. What that couple once had was lost, when the high profile partner took the lead role in their relationship. It is most important that both people have equality in a relationship.


Case in Point:

In today’s world, many females hold high positions that are competitive with males.  Some females earn more money than their spouses.  In some relationships one of the partners is in the spotlight while the other individual is seldom seen or heard of. You probably know of some couples like this. People in the spotlight overshadow their partners who are seldom seen with them, and in some cases aren't heard of.

In such cases where the female overshadows her partner, if she wants the relationship to be strong enough to survive, she has to prove to her partner his role of importance in their relationship. Whether we choose to believe or not, males have to feel they are leaders. If we take that position away from them, it weakens the relationship. God created the male to be the leader of the household. I never wanted to take the lead role. I only wanted to walk beside my spouse and be equal in everything we do.

__ Ellen J. Barrier